All relationships require work. You need to trust each other, support each other and enjoy spending time together. And, although long distance relationships can require more work, there are some benefits to being separated for a time.
You become great communicators
While you are away from each other you are going to spend a lot of your time talking. It is important that you do. Communication is critical to the success of all relationships. Set up a regular calls often enough to maintain a connection but not so often you have nothing to talk about.
To maintain a successful relationship across the miles you must both be willing to:
- Express yourself clearly
Both are important but at times might be challenging. It’s somewhat easier if you can agree on a form of communication that works best for your both. That might be texting, phone calls or video calls.
Occasionally check in with each other about:
- Where you want the relationship to go?
- How long are you happy to maintain a long-distance relationship?
- How often you see each other in person?
During your conversations try to be as kind but honest with each other as possible.
You build up trust
Long-distance relationships can help you build trust. While you are separated physically it is possible to remain emotionally very close. You can grow trust further by:
- Making each other a priority while you are apart
- Communicating regularly
- Being honest about feelings
- Marking special occasions
Over time this trust will help you continue to invest in your relationship and to feel a connection no matter how physically apart you may be.
You have time to confirm your feelings
You get to know each other well
You create special moments together
You really appreciate time spent together
You can be independent
You have more time to yourself
You are patient with each other
You come out the other side stronger than ever
Last but by no means least, if you can make your relationship work long-distance, chances are it can survive anything.
If you are considering taking an opportunity to work and live overseas, don’t forget to take out international health insurance. It will allow you to access an expat assistance programme that offers expert counselling and wellbeing content should you need some extra support while managing your long distance relationship.